Children need to understand their parents; or is it vice-versa? At times, it is not a war of generations, NO. It is a battle, a struggle of identities, of individuals wanting to proove themselves right. Of souls wanting to set free and do what they desire.
I have a friend. She is 24 years old. She wants to enjoy life, go out to see the world, do a job of her own choice, learn music and more.....
But, her parents want her to do a mundane 9 to 5 join, earn some bucks for her pocket money, marry and then ultimately produce kids. Nothing wrong in all this, only the fact that she does not want to do any of these....:)
I have no solution to her dilemma and safely wanting to come out of the discussion, I told her that her parents are concenred about her, that is why they say all this. She should understand them and talk out her perspective, do what she wants and enjoy......All will be fine. But can she? I don't know...maybe, maybe not!
BTW, this post is incomplete.....bet who can complete this?
Saturday, March 29, 2008
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Don't Love....Eat Chocolates!!
The phenylethylamine (PEA) found naturally in chocolate is said to stimulate the same reaction in the brain as falling in love........
So, people....its better to eat chocolates....:)
So, people....its better to eat chocolates....:)
Thursday, February 28, 2008
JuSt a CrAzY CoNvErSaTiOn!!!!
In the thick of the crazed work environment at office managed a quick telephonic chit-chat with my closest friend Aman. Before I get to the bit of conversation which I want to highlight, a sentence of genuine appreciation towards the meticulousness with which she has maintained this long-distance connect with someone as lazy as me for past one year. If it was not for her, I would have definitely missed knowing a wonderful person so close. Anyways, this is not supposed to be testimonial for her.
So….our discussion started from generic things like clothes, weather, friends, etc etc etc etc etc etc etc etc…………….then working late at office… and finally money.
And then I said…”Why do we need to work? For money. Is it not possible that there is ample money around the world which all of us can distribute?”
Mad enough like me she said “Priya, wouldn’t it be better if money would grow on trees?”………yeah….very common thought, yet very exciting!!
I said “….there would be complete parity around us in that case...no poverty, no biases, no sufferings”
So, she said with a fire in her voice believing what she is saying would turn true “I wish it was like this. Instead of money there would be trees with all essentials and luxuries. A tree of utensils, clothes, books, computers, DVDs, mobiles, toys, food, (Not to forget we also decided that there has to be a tree of chocolates and had we continued discussing tree types without doubt she would have wanted a tree of pizza and Pepsi completely to herself), and all that we would need for lifetime.
Then I said, “There could be a tree assigned to each of us right from time of birth. This tree should help fulfill all the needs of that person throughout life!
Great! What an easy life…..!
Me and Aman both say together: “Guess we have gone crazy, but we are creative!!”……..or atleast we believed so because otherwise there was no out of world creativity in all this. This thought would come to most of us most of the time.
But…..an afterthought…..what worth would be a life so easy? No needs, no passion - no passion, no struggle – no struggle, no win AND NO WIN, NO HAPPINESS!!
And I am confident that Aman will second that…….:)
So….our discussion started from generic things like clothes, weather, friends, etc etc etc etc etc etc etc etc…………….then working late at office… and finally money.
And then I said…”Why do we need to work? For money. Is it not possible that there is ample money around the world which all of us can distribute?”
Mad enough like me she said “Priya, wouldn’t it be better if money would grow on trees?”………yeah….very common thought, yet very exciting!!
I said “….there would be complete parity around us in that case...no poverty, no biases, no sufferings”
So, she said with a fire in her voice believing what she is saying would turn true “I wish it was like this. Instead of money there would be trees with all essentials and luxuries. A tree of utensils, clothes, books, computers, DVDs, mobiles, toys, food, (Not to forget we also decided that there has to be a tree of chocolates and had we continued discussing tree types without doubt she would have wanted a tree of pizza and Pepsi completely to herself), and all that we would need for lifetime.
Then I said, “There could be a tree assigned to each of us right from time of birth. This tree should help fulfill all the needs of that person throughout life!
Great! What an easy life…..!
Me and Aman both say together: “Guess we have gone crazy, but we are creative!!”……..or atleast we believed so because otherwise there was no out of world creativity in all this. This thought would come to most of us most of the time.
But…..an afterthought…..what worth would be a life so easy? No needs, no passion - no passion, no struggle – no struggle, no win AND NO WIN, NO HAPPINESS!!
And I am confident that Aman will second that…….:)
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
http://www.blogthings.com/whatcolorisyourbrainquiz/
I got Green when I tried this!
Of all the brain types, yours has the most balance.You are able to see all sides to most problems and are a good problem solver.You need time to work out your thoughts, but you don't get stuck in bad thinking patterns.You tend to spend a lot of time thinking about the future, philosophy, and relationships (both personal and intellectual).
I got Green when I tried this!
Of all the brain types, yours has the most balance.You are able to see all sides to most problems and are a good problem solver.You need time to work out your thoughts, but you don't get stuck in bad thinking patterns.You tend to spend a lot of time thinking about the future, philosophy, and relationships (both personal and intellectual).
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Someone sent me a link to the site “101 ways to relax”….:)
It had good techniques including message therapies, morning rituals and meditations, holistic healing using crystals, relaxing candles, relaxing music and much more.
What attracted me most was the topic “Relaxation by Self-Hypnosis.”
This is what I absorbed from there:
Hypnosis as we all know is purely a psychological condition of altered state of mind in which some people may be induced to show various differences in behavior and thinking, like heightened suggestibility and receptivity to direction.
Self-hypnosis is a type of hypnosis in which you add visualization.
Try this: Simply start with your toes and work all the way up to your head saying "My (toes) are heavy and relaxed" 3 times... with each part of your body... and while you are saying the words, focus on relaxing that muscle/body part... feel it happening. Once you master this, also start picturing yourself in a beautiful place. Like maybe on a beautiful island, pleasant wind blowing through your hair, sun warming your skin... the smell of the salty, sea air wafting by. Or any other peaceful, serene place of your choice. Hear the waves crashing on the shore, the gulls in the air. You are walking across the sand, feeling it warming your feet. Think of nothing else at all….
There you are... hypnotized... easy, was it?
Count to five, come back to the here and now... and the feeling of accomplishment is sometimes overwhelming.
And the purpose of hypnosis?
Unlimited! It is effective if you are seeking relief to the struggles of weight loss, smoking cessation, stress management, pain management, sleep, or phobias. And the list goes on.
It requires no drugs, no doctor's offices, no prying psycho babble. No money into medicines, parlors, therapies, creams or anything. It is just free!!
It had good techniques including message therapies, morning rituals and meditations, holistic healing using crystals, relaxing candles, relaxing music and much more.
What attracted me most was the topic “Relaxation by Self-Hypnosis.”
This is what I absorbed from there:
Hypnosis as we all know is purely a psychological condition of altered state of mind in which some people may be induced to show various differences in behavior and thinking, like heightened suggestibility and receptivity to direction.
Self-hypnosis is a type of hypnosis in which you add visualization.
Try this: Simply start with your toes and work all the way up to your head saying "My (toes) are heavy and relaxed" 3 times... with each part of your body... and while you are saying the words, focus on relaxing that muscle/body part... feel it happening. Once you master this, also start picturing yourself in a beautiful place. Like maybe on a beautiful island, pleasant wind blowing through your hair, sun warming your skin... the smell of the salty, sea air wafting by. Or any other peaceful, serene place of your choice. Hear the waves crashing on the shore, the gulls in the air. You are walking across the sand, feeling it warming your feet. Think of nothing else at all….
There you are... hypnotized... easy, was it?
Count to five, come back to the here and now... and the feeling of accomplishment is sometimes overwhelming.
And the purpose of hypnosis?
Unlimited! It is effective if you are seeking relief to the struggles of weight loss, smoking cessation, stress management, pain management, sleep, or phobias. And the list goes on.
It requires no drugs, no doctor's offices, no prying psycho babble. No money into medicines, parlors, therapies, creams or anything. It is just free!!
All it needs is your continued practice in your own home, at your own pace, using your own skills and imagination.
Life is strange. None of us knows what life is…is it science, art or something else?
Often I think about it. I have strange thoughts in mind. Where do we come from? Where do we go to? It is strange because we don't have answers to every question. Even science fails to answer these. We think, search, and still do not have the answers to everything.
However, just imagine what would happen if we knew it all. If we knew what is life? What if we were born with a paper in hand, with details of what we were before this life, what we will do in life, we would die and how would be our life after death. Exciting yet scares me! If we knew all this then Life would become useless. We would stop thinking, believing in anything as there would be nothing to unfold. Life would be mundane, unexciting…
So, it is this curiosity of what is going to happen next minute, which lets us enjoy, love, trust, and believe in others and ourselves. It encourages us to discover, to move on, to struggle, and to fight……TO LIVE!
Reminds me of the song:
"Isn't Life Strange"
Isn't life strange
A turn of the page
Can read like before, can we ask for more?
Each day passes by..........
Often I think about it. I have strange thoughts in mind. Where do we come from? Where do we go to? It is strange because we don't have answers to every question. Even science fails to answer these. We think, search, and still do not have the answers to everything.
However, just imagine what would happen if we knew it all. If we knew what is life? What if we were born with a paper in hand, with details of what we were before this life, what we will do in life, we would die and how would be our life after death. Exciting yet scares me! If we knew all this then Life would become useless. We would stop thinking, believing in anything as there would be nothing to unfold. Life would be mundane, unexciting…
So, it is this curiosity of what is going to happen next minute, which lets us enjoy, love, trust, and believe in others and ourselves. It encourages us to discover, to move on, to struggle, and to fight……TO LIVE!
Reminds me of the song:
"Isn't Life Strange"
Isn't life strange
A turn of the page
Can read like before, can we ask for more?
Each day passes by..........
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
@ Conversation
“Does it or does it not?” she asked me. I said “Not really, but maybe.” She giggled and said…………..
Ok…let’s start from the starting!
We were having this exchange, P (my best friend) and me.
The debate started with me putting up a naive thought to her. “Can I at this point of time get into what I really want to do in my life? Can I leave my job and join social work, or start my own social organization? Can I pen a book and get it published? Can I take dance classes or learn an instrument or study something? Can I travel around the world” She said that I can definitely do all of this as my family is capable enough to back me. That is anyways true. But, I always wanted to do all of this on my own, without any support…right! Which means, I need to have lot of green stuff with me, quit my job, and then get into all this. Which also could mean that after sometime I may not have all that money in my hand, it maybe there it may not be! Which means there maybe times, when I find myself financially unsettled.
She asked me, “How much does money matter to you? Does it or does it not?” I said “Not really, but maybe.” She smiled and said “This is the Catch-22 of life, you need to take the risk.” We closed the topic.
Now, I need to think if I want to take that risk, what is important to me – satisfaction or money!!
Ok…let’s start from the starting!
We were having this exchange, P (my best friend) and me.
The debate started with me putting up a naive thought to her. “Can I at this point of time get into what I really want to do in my life? Can I leave my job and join social work, or start my own social organization? Can I pen a book and get it published? Can I take dance classes or learn an instrument or study something? Can I travel around the world” She said that I can definitely do all of this as my family is capable enough to back me. That is anyways true. But, I always wanted to do all of this on my own, without any support…right! Which means, I need to have lot of green stuff with me, quit my job, and then get into all this. Which also could mean that after sometime I may not have all that money in my hand, it maybe there it may not be! Which means there maybe times, when I find myself financially unsettled.
She asked me, “How much does money matter to you? Does it or does it not?” I said “Not really, but maybe.” She smiled and said “This is the Catch-22 of life, you need to take the risk.” We closed the topic.
Now, I need to think if I want to take that risk, what is important to me – satisfaction or money!!
Today was Tomorrow Yesterday......
And…..
You thought you’ll do it tomorrow
You felt tomorrow will be sometime later,
You imagined tomorrow to be far away,
You wanted to rest before tomorrow comes,
You liked saying “Will see it tomorrow,”
You tried, but left it for tomorrow,
You craved, but you had to wait for tomorrow,
But,
Tomorrow never comes…..
It’s only today that you saw yesterday.
You thought you’ll do it tomorrow
You felt tomorrow will be sometime later,
You imagined tomorrow to be far away,
You wanted to rest before tomorrow comes,
You liked saying “Will see it tomorrow,”
You tried, but left it for tomorrow,
You craved, but you had to wait for tomorrow,
But,
Tomorrow never comes…..
It’s only today that you saw yesterday.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
My interpretation of life
Dictionary meaning: Life is a condition that distinguishes organisms from inorganic objects, i.e. non-life, and dead organisms, being manifested by growth through metabolism, reproduction, and the power of adaptation to environment through changes originating internally.
But, is that all about life?
So, here is my meaning: Life is colors, craze, adventure, smiles, delight, love, passion, surprises, affection and synonyms. Yes, I know for some of us life is not as out-and-out as all the words I have put here. But, at least I think of it this way. I guess it makes me feel all happy.
Rest all for me is non-life.
But, since this blog is not all about me, let’s talk about the times when life puts a person to a checkmate situation? PAUSE. A point where we are left thinking……..what is happening and WHY? When things seem going out of control. When world seems gloomy and hopeless. What do we do then?
Well, different people different strokes. I could finger three broad blankets around me:
1: Those of us who give in considering this time as the worst thing that could happen to us. We start feeling helpless and cry and crib and go to nowhere. We loose more and more. Surprisingly, most of us fall into this space.
2: Those of us who start struggling hard to find out a solution, find the answers to our worries. Some we get easily, some we struggle to find out and some we don’t get and would never…...so we forget. But, we still struggle and leave everything else for this. So, maybe we find out the answer one day, but still we loose everything else. Surprisingly again, a lot of us come in this list too.
3: And a handful of us say “This bad phase is a part of life, and we’ll not give up our peace for this. We’ll do what we planned to do and this will go side-by-side. ” Then we win. Though this seems simple when written, yet, to do this needs lot of courage. To be not disturbed and not fall into the trap of worries needs guts.
A simple exercise for others, you, and me:
1. Step back in time and think of all times you have felt that everything around is falling.
2. Answer yourself which category you fall into
3. Try to get into the third category if you are not there, because we all must win!
Whatever and however it is, you must face it, live it and enjoy it. And after all it is not that bad. Remember, after every dark night comes a warm, fresh morning.
So, live and get going! Cheers to life!
But, is that all about life?
So, here is my meaning: Life is colors, craze, adventure, smiles, delight, love, passion, surprises, affection and synonyms. Yes, I know for some of us life is not as out-and-out as all the words I have put here. But, at least I think of it this way. I guess it makes me feel all happy.
Rest all for me is non-life.
But, since this blog is not all about me, let’s talk about the times when life puts a person to a checkmate situation? PAUSE. A point where we are left thinking……..what is happening and WHY? When things seem going out of control. When world seems gloomy and hopeless. What do we do then?
Well, different people different strokes. I could finger three broad blankets around me:
1: Those of us who give in considering this time as the worst thing that could happen to us. We start feeling helpless and cry and crib and go to nowhere. We loose more and more. Surprisingly, most of us fall into this space.
2: Those of us who start struggling hard to find out a solution, find the answers to our worries. Some we get easily, some we struggle to find out and some we don’t get and would never…...so we forget. But, we still struggle and leave everything else for this. So, maybe we find out the answer one day, but still we loose everything else. Surprisingly again, a lot of us come in this list too.
3: And a handful of us say “This bad phase is a part of life, and we’ll not give up our peace for this. We’ll do what we planned to do and this will go side-by-side. ” Then we win. Though this seems simple when written, yet, to do this needs lot of courage. To be not disturbed and not fall into the trap of worries needs guts.
A simple exercise for others, you, and me:
1. Step back in time and think of all times you have felt that everything around is falling.
2. Answer yourself which category you fall into
3. Try to get into the third category if you are not there, because we all must win!
Whatever and however it is, you must face it, live it and enjoy it. And after all it is not that bad. Remember, after every dark night comes a warm, fresh morning.
So, live and get going! Cheers to life!
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
4 U
When my love,
the worlds seems gray,
and life moves away from you,
Then....
Look at me, and call me
Say "I need you,"
And I shall be there, against all odds,
Then....
Ask me, how much I love you
I shall answer with no words,
Only my eyes,
my smile!
Then....
You hold me into your arms,
And I shall quiver with your touch
You come into love, into my heart
And we shall be together always.
the worlds seems gray,
and life moves away from you,
Then....
Look at me, and call me
Say "I need you,"
And I shall be there, against all odds,
Then....
Ask me, how much I love you
I shall answer with no words,
Only my eyes,
my smile!
Then....
You hold me into your arms,
And I shall quiver with your touch
You come into love, into my heart
And we shall be together always.
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