Children need to understand their parents; or is it vice-versa? At times, it is not a war of generations, NO. It is a battle, a struggle of identities, of individuals wanting to proove themselves right. Of souls wanting to set free and do what they desire.
I have a friend. She is 24 years old. She wants to enjoy life, go out to see the world, do a job of her own choice, learn music and more.....
But, her parents want her to do a mundane 9 to 5 join, earn some bucks for her pocket money, marry and then ultimately produce kids. Nothing wrong in all this, only the fact that she does not want to do any of these....:)
I have no solution to her dilemma and safely wanting to come out of the discussion, I told her that her parents are concenred about her, that is why they say all this. She should understand them and talk out her perspective, do what she wants and enjoy......All will be fine. But can she? I don't know...maybe, maybe not!
BTW, this post is incomplete.....bet who can complete this?
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Most important thing about your friend that this post does not mention:
She wants to do something meaningful in her life... Something which makes her feel proud, and gives her a satisfaction that something that she did helped someone, it made a difference to someone's life, it made someone happy for another day, another moment... That is how she wants to enjoy life, that's the kind of job she wants where she can do something worthwhile...
You were right in telling her whatever u did... Coz no matter how hard she tries, finally she'll have to give in to what her parents want, coz
"that's how things should be!!"
So tell ur friend to stop expecting, and therefore disappointing herself... and ask her to accept each day as it comes... :-)
Like I always tell this to many people around me "Life becomes what you make out of it!" I think no one should ever give up one's hopes and dreams. They drive your life. The moment you give up these two things, you lose control of your own life. It's like a ship which is facing a storm in the sea but with its controls in someone else's hand. You just have to stand up for yourself.You might end up giving a day's, a month's or years happiness to your close ones, but do it only if you are really willing to bear the cost of it. Giving up or taking it is a matter of your own choice.
a lot of people may disagree with this...but giving up is very very easy!!! priyanka you told your friend to listen to her parents for its only concern and love for their daughter that drives them to try and persuade their daughter. However, your friend has to priortize things in her life...she has to decide how important her dream of this meaningful job adn exploring the world to do her own thing is to her...sometimes kids take the easy way out of giving up on an ambition which is really only a fantasy...at heart what they want is what their parents tell them...because what parents suggest is safe and secure. accepting what your parents want and then saying oh i could not do this because this is how it was meant to be is escapism...if its a dream your friend will make it come true..however, if it is a mere fantasy, she will get over it before she knows it and explain to herself that her parents were responsible for making her choose this path...
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